Came across a rather interesting article online:

81 percent of the married men surveyed by the National Marriage Project said one reason they decided to wed was because it was the right time to settle down.

"Of course, even if a guy is ready to walk down the aisle, he still needs to find the right person," says Gratch. "But he is more likely to meet her once he's in that marrying state of mind."

For example:

COMMITMENT FACTOR #1
The Capacity to Love

No matter how head-over-heels your guy is during the initial honeymoon period of the relationship, it doesn't mean he is ready to commit.

A man might fall in love, which requires the capacity to idealize. That means thinking and feeling like his partner and the relationship are uniquely special, enabling him to ignore imperfections, which, in turn, makes him feel valued and special.

Loving, on the other hand, involves connecting with the other person, understanding her, and wanting to be with her for who she is, not who he'd like her to be.

While it might be difficult to decipher the difference between the two, one clue is the test of time.

Falling in love happens early on in a relationship, when a couple barely knows each other.

Once they become more intimate and learn more about each other's positive and negative traits and the initial love buzz is gone, a man who is only in love will lose interest.

If he truly loves, he'll stay.

Another major telltale sign of real love is selflessness and the ability to care. Does your man make sacrifices for you? Is he able to put your wants and needs before his?

Relationships are all about give and take, but love is more about giving.


COMMITMENT FACTOR #2
Being Able to Accept Imperfection

Intellectually, we all know that there are no perfect people and, therefore, no perfect relationships. But it often takes maturity and dating experience to actually believe it.

Having unrealistic expectations makes it impossible for a man to develop a close bond. If a guy who isn't ready starts getting too close to a woman, he'll look for imperfections, either consciously or subconsciously, to create distance between them and, ultimately, to give him a reason to break up with her.

COMMITMENT FACTOR #3
He Truly Believes in Commitment

Even if a man tells you that he's in it for the long term, you won't really know the level of his staying power until you hit some rough patches.

If he's not ready, he won't be able to handle the negative aspects of a relationship, and he'll either shut down — and shut you out — or bail.

A man who is truly ready to bond will be willing to work with you to try to resolve whatever problems the two of you are having.

This doesn't mean that he'll never experience any doubts or even think about leaving.

But at the end of the day, he'll realize that his relationship is a top priority, and whatever discomfort he might have to endure to work out the kinks is worth it. It's a trade-off he's willing to make.


It's pretty true to me...

Wad ya think?;P