- Taking for granted? -

Colleague knew what kind of trauma i'm currently allowing myself to go through.
We chatted in the OFFICE for scary danky 2 hrs, bearing the cold, cuddling our pillows and having those kind of 'girly' chats i thought has long left since JC times. It was good to let our hair down for a moment, not to be afraid of ears behind walls... Relax.... and just chat.

With cookies, biscuits and drinks, of cos. =)

Have you always been a People Pleaser?

That most of the times, you lost your own identity just to make that someone or somepeople happy.

For instance, you will gladly travel 40mins to someone's place just to make him/her happy.

And all he/she can offer u is a line:
Hey, i'm going to sleep soon. Just leave your stuffs and ............ go.

Well,perhaps not that.... crude. But it's along tat line la. And u felt like a SUPER idiot standing before someone's door and kana slammed in the face for a kind deed u thought u just did.

Some people....

THEY JUST DON'T GET IT.

Do they think that we are born into this beautiful city just to serve them... to make them happie and glad?? To treat them like princes/princesses?

That they can be spoilt brats, stepping us beneath their big fat toes, twingling the insignificant us around their little fat fingers.....

JUST BECOS WE CHERISH THEIR PRESENCE MORE THAN THEY DO?

If so, what's the true meaning of cherishing someone significantly important?

And if one hand isn't enough to make a clap.....

Will he/she regret if someday we decided to snap it off and leave w/o looking back? Will it be too late? Can he/she handle that last straw?

Till the very end....we still care a huge damn about them.

How sad.

Given the fact that we might not even be in their Top 5 Most-Important-People list.

And perhaps, the more we try, alittle more weary we feel. And we'll soon find ourselves racing to the finishing line and calling it quits.

It's just too MUCH to handle. Always pleasing someone who treats us just like peanuts.

And the 'Pleasing Someone' i'm tokking abt here is DEFINITELY NOT EQUIVALENT to Hypocritical Pleasing just becos u wana get into someone's pants.

It's DEFINITELY about SINCERELY trying to make someone happy. Trying to make him/her regain that smile which has been lost for quite some time. Trying to make him/her happy just becos life isn't all about happiness and smiles. Trying to make him/her happy becos you will be happppppy! too.

AND

Trying to make him/her happy.. because he/her ISN'T just somebody.

Of cos, some saints will be telling me that whatever u offer, u don't need the other party to reciprocate.

Well, i'm not talking about reciprocation here. It's not like a Mathematics game where i give u $0.50 and u gona give me back the same or more. NO-NO.

It's more about appreciation. The little thoughts people offer you in your daily life where the rest are too busy/ fed-up/ bo-chup to treat you nicely or better.

It's more about knowing there's one more person in this overcrowded world who still cares something for you besides your mother/father/grandma/grandpa and TRYING your very best to make that person knows that you're thankful for his/her little gentle efforts.

A little thank-you can mean so much. Much much better than slamming that door right into his/her face.

And when we're thankful, i'm NOT saying u gotta recite a poem for him/her OR to bring him/her to the moon and back.

Appreciation doesn't come with a long essay of useless sweet talks OR a long thank-you note. It doesn't stop for a few seconds and became history. It doesn't exist for today and dissolve into thin air tomorrow.

It comes with a chain of actions and efforts to show that you care about that person as well.

Of cos, you might have this feeling that i'm tokking about an ideal situation right now. Where everyone treats one another fairly and equally and everyone is someone else's gem.

BUT

what are the things we CAN'T do to show someone that we truly care for him/her?

what are the things we CAN'T achieve?

I'm not asking you to parachute to her house with a BIG thank you poster on your chest.

Nor am i asking you to jump down from the tallest building to show how much you care.

In the end, it all boils down to efforts. Whether are we trying very hard to shun away by giving tons of silly excuses or are we really starting to put in some efforts just for that person to be happy and happier.

And the second that excuse gets out of your mouth, there will always be the 2nd...3rd...4th excuse... and it becomes a habitual tool sooner or later.

And that gets pretty irritating. Becos excuses can NEVER be the truth.

If you care for someone right now, and that person cares back for u...
Dont lose it. Let him/her know u're appreciative. Cos u never know if u can find someone else who cares a huge damn about u too.

Perhaps never ever.