- 皇上不急，太监急 -

There is a huge difference between these:
Attractions VS Like.
吸引力 VS 喜欢。

Attraction is definitely the foundation of love, one of the most important phases before it gradually develops into a sensual feeling and slowly became mutual and the rest is history.

But when i say i'm attracted to someone, it doesn't mean i'm in love with him, i want him to be mine and only mine, or i want to spend the rest of my humble life with him.

You can be attracted to MANY people in life, but you can only like one. You guys share the same thoughts, love the same hobbies, have similar traits, and you adore the way his eyes accidentally caught yours and almost immediately shy away.

But

That is just attraction.

Something in that person which you idolise / respect / admire about.

It's not even infatuation, you aren't even a secret admirer nor a hopeless 发花痴 whose heart race like crazy upon the sight of him/her.

No-no-NOOO.
You are JUST INNOCENTLY ATTRACTED to that someone or some people.

And whether you guys wana take the next step to another deeper level of understanding OR leave it as it is........ It's really up to the both of you.

天时地利人和。I strongly believe in when the time is to come, everything shall fall in place beautifully and naturally that nothing/nobody can even stop or obstruct.

That's why these days you see many platonic friends who aren't lovers but not really just .... friends.

They share a very ambiguous relationship. Very very close friends who sms each other almost everyday, talk hours on the phone every night before they sleep, some even dare to hold hands in public.

But they are just NOT lovers.

You find it queer and decided to ask them just wth is going on?

They don't know too.
This is perhaps a level higher than just PLAIN ATTRACTION.

This is more fatal, runs deeper and they might even be secretly considering the possibilities of getting together one day.

BUT attraction, in my eyes, is definitely not even infatuation or ambiguous.

Infatuation is more like 'Puppy Love' 懵懂的爱。 Attraction is 吸引力。

When you're attracted to somebody, this means that there's certain traits in him that you admire and hope your future bf/ husband/ gf/ wife will have.

For instance if a guy can cook a decent meal, i will be strongly attracted to him.

If a guy plays my fav piano piece pretty well, i will be strongly attracted to him.

If a guy has a sense of humor and loves cracking up jokes, makes me pengs and laugh, i will SURELY be attracted to him.

If a guy is sporty, tanned and pretty humble, i will be attracted to him too.

If a guy resembles Louis Koo or Justin Timberlake, i will be oh-so attracted to him as well.

But on the subject of bringing attraction to the next level, i'll certainly have my reserves.

How well do you know that person? How much can you trust that a person who cooks a decent meal can be a decent boyfriend too?

Therefore, much understanding & communication has to be done before things get serious. It's like preparing for a thesis. You set a thesis statement, proceed on to finding more information on that particular subject and upon deeper understanding, you'll have much much more confidence to start writing the whole thesis report.

尤其是经历过伤悲的人，
更需要这一方面的肯定与安慰。

So, the next time if i ever confide into you that i might be attracted to someone (note*!: might be.. not even yet a confirmation!), don't start jumping up and down bewildered and began gunning me with lots of questions i wasn't... erm....
Readily able to answer.

Afterall, i'm just a 24 yr old girl, single, and still waiting for miracles.

皇上不急，太监急？？？

aLamAk!

一切还言之过早。